‘Make sure everybody on your boat is rowing and not drilling holes when you’re not looking.’
It’s a realization that we all need to make. Just because people (our ‘friends’, our ‘family’) are nice to us or seem to be helping us, we need to check and make sure that what others are doing is really in our best interest. Just because someone is ‘helping’ you doesn’t mean that they have your best interest in mind. Only you can make sure that your interests are being considered and that what is happeing is benefiting and not hurting you.
Check your boat everyday, twice daily if you need to. It doesn’t mean you’re paranoid, it means that you’re taking care of you.